That “person” who’s “got it all together”….doesn’t.
You see, the world is full of imperfect, wonderful, messy, very-much-human beings with…
…hopes and fears and desires and neuroses, …and jobs and lives and kids and dogs or cats, …and family demands, …and toilets that need unclogging, …and lines-becoming-wrinkles, …and hangnails, …and alarms that go off too early, …and a love of chocolate-chip cookies, …and all the rest of reality.
Which means that Everyone is NOT okay. But it also means that Everyone is probably GOING TO BE okay.
Ladies, do you have a “THAT” woman in mind, who fits into all her clothes; rocks Lululemon leggings and skinny jeans…even after having three angelic children?
“That” woman is at your kids’ school picking up her well-groomed offspring.
She looks fabulous and together. She’s into Pilates or running or Crossfit or kale juice or something else that seems to keep her full of energy.
She’s a lawyer or a neurosurgeon or an international diplomat or perhaps a stay-at-home mother, but whatever she does, she excels at it and is fulfilled. She uses hashtags like #honored and #grateful and #blessed, and means it.
Meanwhile, you’re shoving aside banana peels and empty soda cups to make room for your kid’s dog-hair-encrusted car seat. And you’re wearing your husband’s track pant bottoms with baby spit-up on them, because they’re the only things that fit you right now.
If Only we could become “That” Woman…they’re Awesome and we’re not. Right? Wrong….
“The optical delusion of every day consciousness.” – Albert Einstein
As a Coach with Precision Nutrition, we know our clients’ secrets…
In our case, around 35,000 clients’ worth of secrets.
Now, this doesn’t mean we’re creepy peepers.
We’re discreet and committed to confidentiality. One trusted and caring coach sees one client in total confidence and privacy.
But at some point, the baggy sweat pants have to come off so we can do body measurements.
At some point, a camera captures your image, so we can observe your progress visually.
At some point, you share your cholesterol test or thyroid hormone panel with us, so we can talk about what it means.
At some point, you tell us your daily routine, so we can see how to make changes.
At some point, you tell us honestly what’s going on, so we can help you.
That’s when it gets real.
And that’s when we both learn:
Everyone is not OK.
If you don’t have the big picture, as we do, it seems like Everyone Else is doing so much better than you.
It seems like Everyone Else can handle their lives. Everyone Else quickly learns the habits we teach.
Everyone Else is losing weight or gaining muscle or getting fitter so much faster and more effortlessly than you. Everyone Else has everything you don’t.
It feels like you are the only person in the world with your problems.
But that’s not the case…..so let’s
- stop worrying about being the only person who isn’t fit enough, smart enough, together enough, getting enough things done in a day, a good enough mom / dad / worker, whatever.
- pursue fitness, nutrition, and health goals that are actually realistic and attainable — and feel good about what we do instead of inadequate.
There are 7 ways to start feeling more OK, right now, in your own imperfect, messy life…Today I’ll focus on Point #3
- Reboot Your Expectations..click here to read Point #1
- Find Realistic Role Models..click here to read Point #2
- Embrace the Struggle
It’s not going anywhere.
Grappling with pain — whether that’s actual pain and suffering, or just small daily annoyances — is part of being human.
As adults, we recognize life’s complexity and richness. Wanting to “be perfect” or “have it all” is not an adult wish. It’s a child wish: to have all the toys, all the time, even your sister’s.
Everyone has a struggle. You might just not see it.
- Many clients take prescription medication.
- Of our clients taking medication, 33 percent of women and 24 percent of men take antidepressant or anti-anxiety medication.
- 36 percent of our clients have injuries. And many struggle with chronic pain.
- 27 percent of our female clients and 17 percent of our male clients are over 50 years old. (Even if you’re healthy, aging brings its own challenges.)
Many of these challenges are invisible.
You often can’t see pain or disability. You often can’t see psychological distress. Unless you see someone pop a pill, you don’t know what they’re taking.
Someone who looks fit may be at the end of a long and difficult journey.
- Like the cancer survivors whom we coached through post-treatment rehab.
- Like people who are coming back from an injury or illness.
They’re all being “good enough” — just showing up and trying their best in an imperfect situation.
Want help sorting all this out?
This is simple stuff. But it’s not necessarily easy to put into practice, especially with the consistency needed to see RESULTS.
Enjoy a 20 minutes complimentary coaching session with me via skype, in person or over the phone. Schedule your private coaching session by contacting Tanya at firstname.lastname@example.org or 705-887-4605.
Pictured here with my mummy after cancer treatments. Tanya Morrison has been in the Health/Wellness and Fitness Field for over two decades. She has coached and trained many clients over the decades. She is the creator of the Busy Mama Detox which is a 12 week program that runs in January, April and September of each year. To find out more about this life changing program check out the testimonials and information at www.busymamadetox.com. Tanya also teaches many different classes at Move Your Body Studio in Bobcaygeon, www.moveyourbody.ca and has written Healthy Snacks for Kids, Get the Skinny on Skinny Jeans & Living Vibrantly with Raw Goodness – Your Guide to Juicing & Blending. You can get your PDF copy here
http://tanyamorrison.ca/?p=1766 – point #1
http://tanyamorrison.ca/?p=1769 – point #2